I Want To Be A Daddy’s Girl

Kimspeaks up - Daddy's Girl

OH TO BE A DADDY’S GIRL

It’s been 21 years since my father passed away yet I felt from the time I was born I never knew him. I had his initials and his last name but not his heart nor his attention. Truth is: I have always wanted to be a Daddy’s girl. This has been a very sore spot in my heart that I have tried to suppress it for such a long time until now because it’s been on my mind since last night. I am furious and saddened but I must first acknowledge it before I let it go. Read more

In Defense of Men

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Lately, I have been burdened for men. I found myself reading Brené Brown’s Daring Greatly  and as my eyes perused the pages, my smile faded and tears started to form. Glaring research shows that women daily shame the men in their lives. Read more

Thank You for The “No’s”

Kim Speaks Up - Thanks for the No's

I REMEMBER WHEN I USED TO HATE NO’S

Actually at times, I STILL DO. yet…

“As I look back on my life, I realize that every time I thought I was being rejected from something good, I was actually being re-directed to something better.” ― Steve Maraboli

Recently, I found myself staring at my reflection in the mirror. Taking a good hard look at myself as my mind raced as a time capsule replaying highlight reels of my last 31 years. Realizing one of the most treasured gifts GOD had given to me on our walk together is His response of “NO”. Read more

The Disease To Please

Kim Speaks Up - Disease to Please

We’ve all been afflicted by this contagious disease.

Ever since I was a little girl, I had a knack for numbers and a knack for talking…out of turn most of the time. People were often impressed by how much I knew so the more they were impressed, the more I kept talking. I loved the attention. I loved the affirmation until I realized that it held me hostage from living my life. Honestly, I wanted people to like me. Read more

Dear Church, Fight For The Body Do not let them pimp out your parts!

Kim Speaks Up - Dear Church - Fight for the Body

I sat on the front row last Sunday as I usually do. My ears perked up and my body perched in my chair longing to hear what God would say to His people through the sermon. Wesley, the preacher and my husband, started his monologue. A dissertation of sorts for the next steps in the life of the church. Read more

How to Want The Hard Things

Kim Speaks - How To Want The Hard Things

Oh The Hard Things!!!

There are so many of us that feel like we are in a place of “stuckness” with God. We find ourselves questioning our identity, our place, and our purpose.

So often we come to God asking that He move heaven and earth on our behalf and make the impossible: possible yet in our minds we construct a list of terms and conditions stating what we will and will not do. Read more

Lessons Learned at 31

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Where has the time gone???

It’s my 31st Birthday today (Happy Birthday to me!)

and I am sharing some of biggest lessons learned thus far:

For all of my teens and most of my 20’s, I have felt like I had been falling behind in the goals that I set out to accomplish. I found myself falling short in many aspects of my life and banging my head against a figurative wall trying to find purpose and calling. I saw high paying jobs, mansions, dogs, babies, and the finest lifestyle in my future. If only I could skip the mire of the process and get to the end it will be all worth it…that’s until I decided to grow up. Read more