Thank You for The “No’s”

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I REMEMBER WHEN I USED TO HATE NO’S

Actually at times, I STILL DO. yet…

“As I look back on my life, I realize that every time I thought I was being rejected from something good, I was actually being re-directed to something better.” ― Steve Maraboli

Recently, I found myself staring at my reflection in the mirror. Taking a good hard look at myself as my mind raced as a time capsule replaying highlight reels of my last 31 years. Realizing one of the most treasured gifts GOD had given to me on our walk together is His response of “NO”. Read more

The Disease To Please

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We’ve all been afflicted by this contagious disease.

Ever since I was a little girl, I had a knack for numbers and a knack for talking…out of turn most of the time. People were often impressed by how much I knew so the more they were impressed, the more I kept talking. I loved the attention. I loved the affirmation until I realized that it held me hostage from living my life. Honestly, I wanted people to like me. Read more

Lessons Learned at 31

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Where has the time gone???

It’s my 31st Birthday today (Happy Birthday to me!)

and I am sharing some of biggest lessons learned thus far:

For all of my teens and most of my 20’s, I have felt like I had been falling behind in the goals that I set out to accomplish. I found myself falling short in many aspects of my life and banging my head against a figurative wall trying to find purpose and calling. I saw high paying jobs, mansions, dogs, babies, and the finest lifestyle in my future. If only I could skip the mire of the process and get to the end it will be all worth it…that’s until I decided to grow up. Read more

April Showers – May Flowers

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Hello, May! As I awake, the words of the popular 16th-century poem ring ever so clearly in my ear:

April Showers Bring May Flowers

I remember learning this during story time in nursery school and have found myself repeating it fondly every year as the season of spring is ushered in. This year has been different though. I feel as if I have lived it. The March winds were fierce and the April showers seemed incessant but this May, my prayer is for flowers. The winter season has been a hard one for me and one where I did not do much writing just a lot of feeling, thinking and crying. I experienced loss and grief that went so deep,  I felt like I was sinking into what seemed like an abyss of my tears.  Read more

All Things Spring – Lessons Learned From Pollen

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Spring is in the air and pollen…well it seems to be everywhere. I love all things spring…well except the pollen.  I love the blooms but am not of a fan of the green haze that comes with it. I love to see the cherry blossoms decorate the streets on my daily commute but grumble when my voice drops a few octaves due to sinus allergies. I crave the beauty of a spring morning despite the fact that I am so stuffed up that I cannot stop to smell the roses. I find myself saying this phrase too often: “This day would be bliss if only….”–> Seemingly harmless words that can sound like a simple desire but if not placed in check can wreck you with worry and discontentment with your current situation.

On my commute to work one morning, I heard a whisper in my heart.

Give thanks in all things for this is the will of God concerning you who belong to Christ Jesus. – 1 Thes. 5:18

This got me thinking: When was the last time I was truly grateful for a spring day — pollen and all. No ‘ifs’ nor ‘buts’… Just a simple ‘Thank you, Jesus!’ for He has made all things well. How many times do I desire to choose the beauty without the ugliness that came before it? How often do we boast about the fruit and neglect the health of the roots? How many times do I relish the comfort I presently enjoy yet neglect the fact that it was due to another’s discomfort I can enjoy it?

Kim Speaks Up - All things spring - A farmer's answer

Giving thanks in all things means that I choose to  say, ‘thank you’ for God’s provision when I have little and another has plenty. I choose to say, ‘thank you’ while I mourn the death of my grandmother while celebrating the birth of my friend’s daughter. I choose to say ‘thank you’ when my ‘no’ is another’s ‘yes’.

 Do not let your ‘but’ contradict God’s plans for another.

Know that God works all things together for his glory and our good for those who love him and are called according to His purpose.

So as I sit here and once again watch the storm clouds roll in, I am reminded that these clouds may be the answer to prayer for a farmer with  grain. So choose to not complain about the weeds in your yard. An abundance of rain can lead to an abundance of grain.

Quick To Listen & Slow To Speak – Part 3

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I hope you guys and gals have been enjoying the Quick to Listen & Slow To Speak Series. If you are visiting my blog for the first time you can go here and here for the first two installments. Today I will be sharing 12 more practical tips to help master our thoughts to ensure a great quality of life for us and those around us.

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Quick To Listen & Slow To Speak – Part 2

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Quick To Listen & Slow To Speak – Part 2

Yesterday, I began a series called Quick to Listen – Slow to Speak – It’s all about guarding our thoughts and our tongue to ensure we protect ourselves and those around us. You can find the first installment here. Today we are going to focus on

Today we are going to focus on Mastering Our Thoughts:

So I am sitting here trying to center myself so I can drop some wisdom on the blog and the chorus that keeps playing in my head is from an old 1970’s R&B ballad made famous by the Temptations. You may know it: ♪ It’s just my imagination running away with me ♪ If not, check out this timeless song below:

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Quick To Listen & Slow To Speak – Part 1

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Quick To Listen & Slow To Speak

Social Commentary – We all do it! Whether it’s in conversation with family and friends or commenting on your favorite social media outlets. We always seem to have something to say. Some of it is welcomed. Most of it is not. This week I will be sharing tips on how to ensure our thoughts and talk are purposeful and positive. Read more

It’s The Little Things

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The Little Things In Life Make the Greatest Impact

It’s the little things that we do daily that make the biggest difference of whether we fail or succeed. Doing the little things well are one of the key factors to success. The little things are the bedrock for a lifestyle of integrity and it’s the things that are so easily memorable. Read more

Love Is – Day 8

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Love’s goal is to complete us to ensure that we lack no good thing.

“Consider it pure joy, my brothers and sisters, whenever you face trials of many kinds,  because you know that the testing of your faith produces perseverance. Let perseverance finish its work so that you may be mature and complete, not lacking anything,”

–  James 1: 2 -4