Where has the time gone???
It’s my 31st Birthday today (Happy Birthday to me!)
and I am sharing some of biggest lessons learned thus far:
For all of my teens and most of my 20’s, I have felt like I had been falling behind in the goals that I set out to accomplish. I found myself falling short in many aspects of my life and banging my head against a figurative wall trying to find purpose and calling. I saw high paying jobs, mansions, dogs, babies, and the finest lifestyle in my future. If only I could skip the mire of the process and get to the end it will be all worth it…that’s until I decided to grow up.
Now if you know me, you will know that I am 5’ 2” and have been that way since the age of 12. Growing up for me has always been painstakingly slow. I find myself having to relearn the same lessons over and over again because I fail to retain it the 1st time. Well today, I stand here on my 31st birthday and can confidently say I have learned some important lessons along the way. Some I will love to share with you.
Yes, I know…Life can be hard and sometimes unfair but you have the opportunity to truly show up and live it! If you’re reading this and understanding each word in this sentence, celebrate! One of your major organs in your body, the brain, works. You have the opportunity to get right today what you did wrong yesterday. You have the opportunity to experience some of the miraculous complexities that we sometimes take for granted like the change in seasons, the metamorphosis of a caterpillar into a butterfly and the eminence of childbirth. You only get to do today – today! It is a one-time adventure so make the most of it.
Stop Comparing Yourself With Others:
It is so tempting to measure our life’s quality, work, and success using another person’s measuring stick. Don’t do it! You will always come up short. It is so easy to relish their success with no thought of their sacrifice or to secretly celebrate their failures without compassion. Life is not a competition among opponents. It is a marathon and we all have our own race to run. Some run in stilettos, others in Crocs ®, and some actually show up with their running shoes on. Point is: we all need supporters cheering us on.
No one can live your life better than you can live it.
Determine What Success Looks Like:
More and more, I have come to the conclusion that true success is doing the best with what you have where you are. It is being a great steward over your resources… be it limited or plentiful. The way we manage our time, our money, love and invest in others, respond to criticism, take initiative, pursue justice and mercy determines the quality of life we will lead. Each resource enjoyed is on loan from the Heavenly Father and we will have to give account for the way we have effectively used it.
Live a Simple Life:
I am not saying sell all your stuff and pledge to a life of asceticism where you live far away in some lodge in the mountains. I do say live in such a way that brings dignity to as many persons that are affected by it. These are our families, neighbors, co-workers, civil-employees, and those who make and market the products we consume. Living a simple life is by no means a cheap life but a quality life. It is a life where you can easily release the things that many times keep us busy, anxious, annoyed, and grinding. It helps us identify and rid ourselves of the excess so we can live a more purpose-filled life. Poverty, just like success, has little to do with what you have but more to do with what you do with what you have. Choose gratitude!
Seek Gifts that Keep Giving:
Every year I find myself wracking my brain for an answer to the following question. “You know it! What do you want for your birthday?” I then find myself scouring Amazon or Target searching for something I remotely want so I can ask for it. Reality is: I do not need the things. God has been good to me throughout my life irregardless of how good I have been.
This year I seek gifts that keep on giving. Gifts that give a snapshot of God’s glory among us. They do not tarnish or become obsolete. They are no labels attached to it…sorry Michael Kors. What do I need more of?
- Self Control
You see I realized that the intangible gifts are the ones that matter most. They are the ones that make a lifetime of difference. They are the ones we should seek daily. We can never have enough of it. They are the ones that benefit us and those around uslong after we’re gone. These gifts keep on giving.
I will love to hear from you: What Important life lessons have you learned along the way?