3 More Life-Lessons Learned From My Husband That We All Can Use

Wesley Speaking

At the beginning of every week, Wesley gets up to teach the community at  Tri-Cities Church  principles for Godly living. The ones I have found to be most profound and powerful are the ones he practices daily. In a recent post, 5 Life Lessons Learned from My Husband, I listed 5 life lessons gleaned from observing Wesley.  Here are 3 more that I have found to be helpful.

1. Live SimplyWe live in a world where we receive thousands of messages daily encouraging us to upgrade, super size, expand, and double for the discounted price of more. We pay for storage facilities for stuff we have not seen in years. We subscribe to premium cable packages with 300 + channels when we only really love maybe 3 of the many. We own multiple devices when we can only use one at a time. We binge on fast food favorites that makes us feel awful after a few minutes of consumption all because we love a great deal.  Our homes are bigger and filled with stuff but are void of love and warmth. We engage in so many activities that busy becomes the norm and a call to ‘simply be’ causes us much anxiety. What consumes you, masters you. Seek to free yourself from these things.

A simple life frees you up to do what needs to be done and also provides you with the time to do what you want to do.

I remember sitting in the car with Wesley about 2 years ago returning to Atlanta from our time in New Jersey and talking about the future when he echoed this statement:

A life of excess will always lack contentment. 

A constant desire for more inhibits us from truly appreciating all that we are and all that we have in the moment.  Life is spent in overdrive, we sacrifice our needs for our wants, and are unable to give freely without contempt.

Let’s take time to count our blessings! If we count all we have, we realize that we  have more than we need. A simple life is a rich life. A simple life is a healthy life. A simple life is a content life.

give me neither poverty nor riches,

We need boundaries. When we establish what ENOUGH is for us,  we are able to easily pass on the excess and give to others who may not have enough.

I am not saying that you should choose a life of  mediocrity but one of moderation and balance. A simple life creates space for reflection, preparation, and productivity. It values people over profit.

Seek to produce more that you consume.  Necessity begets creativity.

A life of simplicity can celebrate every new addition and mourn every valued loss.


2. Stay Teachable:  Wesley’s goal in high- school was to be a great mechanic and I believe if he pursued it, he would have been great at it. God had other plans though. Needless to say his quest for knowledge  has taken him on life-long journey. He is committed to learn and teaching pragmatic solutions for living our theology.  I strongly believe that college is not for everyone but learning is. Be a life-learner.

End the day knowing more than you did when you began.

Photo by Kim Schmidt
Graduation Day @ Princeton Photo by Kim Schmidt

Each activity whether mundane in practice or enthralling in concept holds a lesson to be learned. Be in a place and position where you can learn a lesson that is presently being taught.

  • Find a Mentor
  • Be an apprentice
  • Develop your craft
  • Attend Seminars and conferences
  • Read
  • Write
  • Travel
  • Teach
  • Subscribe to blogs, vlogs, and podcasts
  • View Youtube
  • Attend some of the top universities in the world at iTunes University  for e.g. Harvard University for the low- low as low as FREE!
  • Take a MOOC – Massive Open Online Courses offered by great  leaders/ thinkers – many from colleges and universities around the world for a drastically discounted rate or the magical price of FREE! Be sure to do your research first.

3. Stay Humble: None of us are born with the character trait of humility nor was it inherited from our parents. It is one of the hardest attributes to learn. We have to daily work at it. We have to think of others before ourselves. We must daily remind ourselves that it is not about us. Many are confused between meekness and weakness mistaking the former for the latter. Yet I have seen meekness lived out in the life of my husband.  Wesley very seldom cares for what others think about him nor whether he should prove himself to others. His life and his demeanor are proof in itself.  What he does will never define who he is. Who he is informs what he does.

Surrender who you think  you are, yield to who you know God is and let God exalt you in His time.

“Jesus calls us to his rest, and meekness is His method. The meek man cares not at all who is greater than he, for he has long ago decided that the esteem of the world is not worth the effort.” – A.W. Tozer

Find rest in that promise.

Bonus: Keep it Spicy: Wesley loves using spices. It adds flavor and zest to his palette and zing to his meals. It gives new life to what was once boring. Spices are similar to change. Change keeps him ever evolving. Change should keep us on our toes. It is the antithesis to comfort. It is a catalyst for growth and maturity. It provides new dimensions and perceptive.  It is what keeps us motivated and fully engaged.

Embrace the spices in your life.

  • Cheri Gamble

    Great ideas! Not only did I enjoy the ideas you shared, I also enjoyed the respect that you show towards your husband. It is obvious that God is going to use the two of you in amazing ways!

    • Thanks so much Cheri!

    • Kimberly Bolden

      Thanks so much for the encouragement Cheri! I am so glad that you enjoyed this post.