Quick To Listen & Slow To Speak – Part 1

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Quick To Listen & Slow To Speak

Social Commentary – We all do it! Whether it’s in conversation with family and friends or commenting on your favorite social media outlets. We always seem to have something to say. Some of it is welcomed. Most of it is not. This week I will be sharing tips on how to ensure our thoughts and talk are purposeful and positive.

As women, we are known for the quantity and quality of words that escape our lips. Some things we should say. Most things we should not. Recently, I have been thinking about the value of the words that come out of my mouth. It is so tempting to reveal everything that I know but what’s the point?!

 When you reveal everything you know, you begin to gossip, to boast, to slander, to exaggerate, to lie, to engage in chatter that no longer encourages others but destroys the fiber of your integrity and the confidence in your relationships. The saying is true:

A word out of your mouth may seem of no account, but it can accomplish nearly anything—or destroy it!

We need to make every effort to think critically before we speak. We need to make even greater strides to ensure that what we are thinking is healthy. Let me tell you something: Every careless word is going to come back to haunt us. There will be a time of Reckoning. Words are powerful; take them seriously. Words can be your salvation. Words can also be your damnation.

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The Scriptures have much to say about the way we think and what we say.

Here are a few wise words on our thoughts and our talk:

  • “My dear brothers and sisters, take note of this: Everyone should be quick to listen, slow to speak and slow to become angry.” – James 1:19
  •  “Finally, brothers and sisters, whatever is true, whatever is noble, whatever is right, whatever is pure, whatever is lovely, whatever is admirable—if anything is excellent or praiseworthy—think about such things.” – Philippians 4:8
  • “We use our powerful God-tools for smashing warped philosophies, tearing down barriers erected against the truth of God, fitting every loose thought and emotion and impulse into the structure of life shaped by Christ.” – 2 Corinthians 10:5
  • “As one thinks in one’s heart, that is who one truly is.” – Proverbs 23:7
  • “Do not let any unwholesome talk come out of your mouths, but only what is helpful for building others up according to their needs, that it may benefit those who listen.” – Ephesians 4:29
  • “The tongue has the power of life and death, and those who love it will eat its fruit.” – Proverbs 18:21
  • “Let your conversation be always full of grace, seasoned with salt, so that you may know how to answer everyone.” – Colossians 4:6
  • “Too much talk leads to sin. Be sensible and keep your mouth shut.” – Proverbs 10:19

We must make every effort to guard our thoughts and our tongue. 

As we go through this series this week, I will be sharing tips on ways to master your thoughts and tongue and ultimately protect your life and the lives of those around you.

I encourage you to bookmark this post, pin this post, and share this post with friends. There are many more goodies to come and great ‘HOW TO’ tips.

Tomorrow, I will share some tips on how to keep our thoughts from getting us in trouble.

Until Then,

Be Intentional. Be Quick To Listen – Slow to Speak

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  • Great article sometime we talk too much and not listen. I enjoy reading. Thanks for sharing.

  • I can already tell that this is going to be a powerful series! I think that so many times we just let things slip from our tongues without truly thinking about the meaning behind the words we are spewing out.

  • Shirley Wood

    Social media comments have brought out the worst in a lot of folks! It is hard to believe some of the things I read and to think they thought it out, typed it and still hit enter! James 1:19 is a good scripture for all of us.
    Great read here.

  • Great post! I love this verse “As one thinks in one’s heart, that is one truly who he/she is.” – Proverbs 23:7 The truth. It is something to think about but whatever is in our hearts define us as a person which is why we must guard our hearts and our actions.

  • Its hard to remember the scriptures when you’re in the heat of the moment. This is going to be a powerful series. I’ll definitely be back tomorrow!

  • This has always been excellent advice and it’s stood the test of time. Especially true here on the Internet!.

  • Linda Luke

    As a Life Coach I witness daily how our thoughts and words impact our lives. Don Miguel Ruiz talks about being Impeccable with your word and that is one of my core intentions. This means not only being truthful and kind, but keeping your word to yourself and others. The part about speaking kindly to ourselves and keeping our promises to ourselves can be the hardest.

  • Missi

    This is something I struggle with daily. A work in progress for sure. Great post!!

  • I genuinely needed this today. Thank you for your positive vibes!

  • Krysta

    Boy, sometimes when I read things people say or write online it burns me up! If you are going to be so God awfully negative then just say nothing at all! We can all lift one another up instead of (and sometimes it seems intentional) ripping others down!

  • Words and state of mind are key for our success and happiness good article

  • I love this this post! Your pints are right on. Not everything you think needs to be said, just as we need to guard our minds and what we let in.

  • Clare Speer

    Love this – what a great reminder on how BIG our mouths are sometimes!!!!! Great word – can’t wait for Part 2!!!! 🙂 🙂

  • Linda Smith

    What a wise post.Thank you for this!!!

  • Great post. This is something I’ve been working on personally. I need to be a better listener and encourager in real conversations.

  • Mom Elite

    I always try to be aware of being a good listener. I actually think that this is something that I excel at.

  • Listening is so important, unfortunately many people are incapable of doing this. I think we could all be better listeners at times. Great post.

  • Julie

    I love this; it came at a perfect time. I’m working to only speak encouraging words. Today at lunch, some co-workers were talking and one asked me my opinion (would have been gossip), and I told them I was working on my, ‘No comment.’ Sometimes, rather than even having to comment at all, I just remove myself from the situation. Thank you for an inspiring post!

  • Jeanine @ sixtimemommy.com

    This is great. Listening is super important, I know I hate not being listened to. So I try to always take the time to actually listen when I’m speaking with someone.

  • Kira

    I love love love this post. Luckily (through many bad situations) I’m now careful to think before I speak. I think it’s something that comes with age. I love your quotes too.

  • Jessica

    This is wonderful! I definitely struggle with being quick to speak and slow to listen. It’s a big fault of mine. And it’s not fair to my loved ones because I get so frustrated if my husband isn’t listening to me. Thanks for sharing the scriptures that go along with it!

  • Kimberly! What a great post!!
    Running my mouth is something God started working on immediatley when I came to know Him. And to be truthful.. he hasn’t stopped .. lol! But I am forever thankful.

  • Caroline Cordle

    I need this reminder EVERY DAY! Thanks!

  • EverythingMomandBaby

    I look forward to more of your How To posts. Thank you!

  • Amy Albers

    Oh, my gosh – this is such a downfall of mine! I really have to watch it so I don’t get to carried away when I am with friends and we start saying things we shouldn’t about mutual acquaintances. Good reminders!

  • Stephanie Keeping

    I love this post! Great advice. Thanks for sharing.

  • It definitely takes training to keep your lips zipped and stop yourself from saying things sometimes. I think for all of us, it will be something we work on for a lifetime.

  • *M* from K&M

    This is a great reminder and something I need to work on myself.

  • Saving Common Cents

    This is such a good post! Making people more aware of what comes out of their mouth before it does would help so many from getting into difficult situations!

  • Stephanie

    Great tips! It’s true, we need to listen more and talk less!

  • Britney @ Princess & Cowboys

    I really like this! I think a lot of my problems wouldn’t be as bad if I listened more and thought about what I’m going to say.

  • I am trying to teach my teenager this. I know of times that I had said things that were not at the appropriate time and I know a lot later on now that I could of been hurtful. I feel terrible for that, and want to help my children not make those mistakes.I look forward to your series.

  • so many people speak before they think it through… and here come the danger of social media… once you share something it is not so easy to get rid of it… you might delete it sure, but someone could already take a few screenshots and your opinions will float in the net forever

  • Christine St.Vil

    This is something that I try to be conscious of on a daily basis, in making sure I think before I speak (or type). I definitely am very intentional on the things I listen to or watch because I know that has a huge impact. Thanks so much for sharing!

  • This is goodness. Life has definitely taught me that less is more and I have learned more listening. I used to be a chronic interrupter! Thanks for this.

  • This is a great reminder Kim! It’s so easy to just say everything that comes to mind. Guarding our thoughts is the first step and thinking before we speak is definitely important.

  • Amanda

    Daniel Tiger is helping us work on this… take a deep breath and count to 4!

  • Great advice and great post 🙂 thanks for sharing your thoughts on this!!

  • Tesha Munn Fritz

    Oh my goodness Kim! The line that made me slow down and pause a minute was, “We are known for the quantity and quality of words that escape our lips.” Wow! Thank you for sharing!

  • This seems like it’s so hard for people to do but it’s not impossible. This is something we just have to work it and keep trying to master

  • Joe Patroni

    Hi Kim,

    My friend and I found your post and were just wondering why there’s a deer in the picture you used.

    Thanks!
    Brother and Sister in Christ