While I’m Waiting

Patience–hmmm

It is one virtue that I struggle to maintain. Stilling myself and adopting the mindset of ‘not-yet’ is one of the hardest disciplines that I have had to exercise. I remember as a child wanting everything right now. As an adult that desire is still there but has to be tempered daily. I can tell you from experience that what you desire may not be what is best for you. It may actually be to your detriment not your betterment yet it can be so difficult at times…

You know the feeling:

When you are asked to arrive 30 minutes prior to your scheduled appointment with your doctor/dentist and find yourself escorted to the waiting room. You steer at the chairs with much trepidation. You sit for what seems to be eternity while he/she tends to other patients.

So….You mindlessly catch up on the latest gossip and health fads. You play with your phone silently stalking Facebook profiles. You bite your fingernails. You impatiently check and re-check the time on your watch. You urgently tap your feet in quick rhythm while seething with anger on the inside.

If you are like me, your thoughts go something like this:

“Does he/she not realize that I have things to do today!” … “My boss is expecting me back soon.” “I do not pay these expensive premiums and co-pays to wait.” “They’re messing with my schedule!” yet you wait. The value of personal health and wellness outweighs the time spent waiting.

Sometimes it seems like time moves ever sooooooo s-l-o-w-l-y or that the answer that should be around the corner is light-years away or that God is silent.  You’ve pouted, stumped your feet, thrown a tantrum, wiggled your fist, and cast blame. Take a time out and listen:

As I mature, I have indeed found great value in the waiting period. It can be squandered or used wisely.

The Patience Quote by Joyce Meyer

Spoiler Alert:

You can make more progress and have more success while you wait than in constant motion.

Here’s Why:

  1. It provides opportunity to assess your priorities
  2. It can help build discipline and self-control
  3. You can determine boundaries and guardrails
  4. It spurs creativity
  5. You find beauty in the mundane
  6. You embrace simplicity
  7. It provides rest and restoration
  8. Your faith and strength is renewed
  9. It gives new perspective
  10. You learn contentment
  11. It strengthens your resolve
  12. You learn humility and character
  13. You learn how to persevere
  14. It presents the gift of time that you may not have had in the busyness of life
  15. You can reflect on the past, embrace the present, and prepare for the future
  16. It reveals things hidden
  17. It saves you money
  18. You determine for you and your family what is enough
  19. You learn lots about yourself
  20. You deal with insecurities
  21. You learn discernment
  22. You learn how to love and care for others
  23. You learn how to pray
  24. You realize that you are not in control
  25. You realize that  God is in control

    God is Glorified

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I have found that in the periods of waiting, some of  the very things I thought I “absolutely needed” are no longer important.

Ask  yourself

  • Is it necessary?
  • Why do I need it?
  • Who am I trying to impress?
  • Will this satisfy me?
  • Will it change who I am?
  • Can it wait?

We must determine to make the best of each and every season that we are in regardless of the circumstances.

 

Embrace it

Below is a Free Printable to help you do so.

A Personal Manifesto for My Waiting Period

This is a manifesto — your  manifesto–A declaration of your intentions while in the waiting period.

  1. Download it
  2. Think about what you will write
  3. Pray about what you will write
  4. Write it down
  5. Live it Out

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  • Excellent post Kim. I just saw you on Twitter and I’m so glad I popped over. I’d love to have you add it to the Blessing Counters Link Party at Counting My Blessings.

    I have to say I’ve been doing a fair amount of waiting lately. Your post is timely for me and I love your list of reasons why waiting may be the best thing for us. Blessings to you!

    • Deb,

      Thanks for stopping by. I am very interested…Send me the link.

  • Loribeth Tanner

    I really needed to read this today!

  • Such good thoughts, Kim! I feel like the past two years I’ve been in this waiting period, but like you said, I have found beauty in the mundane, and have been able to discern if what I’m waiting for is what God truly wants for me. Thanks for this beautiful reminder!

    • I am learning that it is through hardship that we learn endurance. Praying that God gives you peace in this season.

  • Sarah Muennix

    I love those inspiring photos and quotes above – thank you for sharing!

  • Amy Edmiston

    I LOVE this song. And you are so right about the patience. I think that God often uses the waiting as a tool to teach us patience. And to be still and know that He is doing a mighty work within us. Oh that we could just see it! Yet, that is exactly what faith is. Trusting that God is doing a good work while we wait. And He is! Thanks for this post!

    • Amy, I could not have said it better. May God bolster our faith!

  • Debi (thedeb83)

    Great points. I’m always antsy and ready to go on to the next thing. Sometimes we have to enjoy the moments before they pass!

    • Debi,
      I struggle with those antsy feelings too. This may be time to ask God, what do you want to teach me in the period and give me to patience and discernment to wait to hear from you.

  • Margaux Daughtry

    I have the hardest time with patience! Being a mom, I definitely get tested every minute! Since I have begun blogging, I feel like I do everything I am supposed to and don’t see the results yet that are told are to come. I know it takes time, but it definitely gets frustrating! I have to constantly talk to God about it! I know his plans for me are greater than mine!

    • Margaux,
      I believe that God perfects us and teaches us holiness in each our relationships. I know blogging can be a task especially if you see no return but if your goal was to encourage one that God has placed in your path then you have been obedient. Continue to trust His promises concerning you.

  • I can identify. Waiting is not something we like to do but God allows the “delay” for a reason. BTW: I love Fireproof. One of our favorite movies

    • Fireproof is one of my favorites as well. This songs speaks to me on so many levels.

  • MJ

    This is so on time for me. I still struggle with patience and waiting. I love your outlook on it. I am working on it because I realize my toddler is not very patient and I have to lead by example. Thanks for sharing.

    • Thanks for stopping my MJ. Praying patience for you today.

  • RattlesandHeels

    This really spoke to me. Waiting is definitely difficult and I need to develop the patience and faith to navigate it.

    • Patience is a gift that many desire but few know how to use. May God grant wisdom on how best to exercise it.

  • laurie rill scardina

    What an inspiring post!!! You are SO right!!!!

  • Girl…Great tips here…patience and I have always battled but I have found as I have aged that there truly is a peace that comes with it.

  • Patience is something that I’m challenged with. It has improved greatly since I’ve moved abroad. The Middle Eastern culture is very relaxed so I’m forced to go with the flow most times.

  • I can’t read the title without starting to sing that song! Great tips here, I’ve always struggled with patience!

  • purelyessential

    What a great message about not only accepting a slow down, but appreciating and even loving it.

  • I struggle with patience on the daily, mostly with being patient with my kid. This week has been a doozy with sleep/nap issues and changes, ugh. Love what you said about enjoying the wait.

  • iluv2globetrot

    This was a great article! I have truly managed to gain a lot of patience since living and teaching abroad. I had no idea that I could gain so much about myself from living in another culture.

  • Christine St.Vil

    This is such a powerful post on so many levels. I loved this: “I have found that in the periods of waiting, some of the very things I thought I “absolutely needed” are no longer important.” The waiting period can be challenging but most times, it makes us stronger and sometimes (like you said) makes us realize that we may not need what we’re agonizing over.

  • Janeane Davis

    Patience is an area I am working to improve. I really like that Joyce Myers quote and will be using it.

  • I always have such a hard time with patience. I’m actually incredibly impatient. I like to be doing something and doing something I enjoy. So to just sit and wait is not my forte (hello, DMV’s!). But this post is such a wonderful thing. We should all really learn to be more patient and enjoy the world around us as we wait.

  • MOMentous Mom; Perfectionist

    I love how you find positivity in things that most people struggle with like waiting! I am a very impatient person. I try to bring stuff with me to do which I know is not the total point of your post but it helps. I love that Joyce Myers quote 🙂

  • Caroline Barnes

    I think patience is so important, I have to say I have to work on mine…

  • Patience is something I definitely need to work on. Particularly when I am afraid things aren’t going to change.

  • Alli

    Patience is something I’m working on as well. I tend to get impatient waiting in long lines at the checkout counter. I’m learning to take a couple of deep breaths and spend the time talking to the Lord and thanking Him for all the blessings He’s bestowed upon me. Then I make sure I speak kind words to the cashier. When I turn my thoughts toward God instead of huffing and puffing and thinking about myself, it’s a lot easier to wait. Great word!

  • This is definitely a helpful way to think about those needed times of waiting! Patience is a worthwhile virtue.

  • I love that song! Patience is definitely something I’m always trying to work on. Great post! :]

  • What a wonderful reminder! It reminds me of Proverbs 13:12- Hope deferred makes the heart sick, but a desire fulfilled is a tree of life. – because we need to be patient and give our hopes to the Lord! Being patient, though, is hard, but also a good learning time, like you said!

  • oh I so know what you mean about having patience while waiting for a doctor who told you to be there early!! Thats why I love my Bible app on my Kindle and while waiting and getting frustrated, just open that app and read. The Word always puts me back into perspective. Great post and thank you for sharing this today.

  • Kelly

    Thanks for the inspiration,

  • Rachel

    Kim, I LOVE THIS! And you sound exactly like me in a doctor’s office. Bundle of nerves with a bit of hurry up, let’s get this over with. This post is so right. Patience teaches us valuable lessons, which in turn make us better at serving and hopefully better people. We must make the best of every season, because that is are our present. It will soon be the past. I can’t say enough how much I enjoyed this piece. Beautifully done.

  • danita Carr

    Very insightful and encouraging. Thanks for the reminder! Have a blessed day and very Merry Christmas

  • Yes ma’am! Patience is something I have always struggled with. I always want things done my way on my time schedule – but sometimes I need to step back and realize it’s not all about me, and I can show grace through waiting patiently, Love the quotes and the song you shared!

  • Hi Kim,
    Thank you for the reminders. My husband and I have been in several situations of overlapping waiting for the last few years. Waiting for healing with my illnesses, waiting to sell our house, and mostly, waiting to see if the Lord will bless us with more children. Waiting can be so hard at times, especially when you want something so much, but you are right… it develops patience and a dependence on Christ that we would seldom have if we got everything we wanted right away. There can be beauty in the brokenness of waiting. It is especially difficult this time of year, when we are asked so much, “When are you going to have more kids??” But I know He has a plan for us and messages like this make the time that passes a little easier to bear. Thanks again. Merry Christmas.

  • Amanda Maggio

    What an inspiring and SO CLOSE TO HOME POST! Needed to read this today, thank you! 🙂

  • Great post! The thing is we all have this ability to be patience, we just don’t choose to practice it.

  • chall1018

    Great post! I struggle with waiting and needed these reminders!

  • Stephanie

    Before having our son, I was so rushed rushed and waiting wasn’t something I liked to do. But since having him, I’ve been forced to slow down a bit and enjoy the slow pace, even the moments when all I’m doing is waiting. It’s totally made me strengthen my ability to be patient.

  • Tricia LaCorte

    Oh man I needed this today!! spoke straight to my heart! thank you for sharing

  • What a beautiful post and reminder 🙂
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  • Heather

    I have a terrible time with patience…thanks for shifting my outlook on waiting with that great list! 🙂

  • Very nice post. 🙂

  • I am super impatient, particularly at the doctor’s office. Thanks for sharing 🙂

  • Beautiful post. I agree that the waiting period offers a valuable lesson & appreciation of what’s to come. Love your list. Thank you for the gentle reminder.
    Have a beautiful week 🙂

  • Tara Joy

    There is definitely so much to learn during the waiting period, I feel like I am ever waiting, especially since my husband is a nonbeliever but I can see God using this period really to mold me into the Christ like woman he wants through my husband and my current situation! So much for us to learn while waiting, but it is SO hard sometimes especially since I love instant gratification too!

  • purelyessential

    What a wonderful post! Patience is such a difficult thing to master.

  • Occasionally Crafty

    What a great parallel! This was definitely thought-provoking for me.

  • Danielle Knapp

    It can definitely be hard to be patient – thanks for sharing 🙂

  • michelle myers

    I whole heartedly agree! Some of the best things in my life have come after periods of waiting!

  • Kim, This was a great treatise on waiting. I loved how you fleshed it out for us. There is so much to learn in the area of patience. Thanks.

  • Simone

    I love this post! I have been experiencing some things on the list over the last 12 months as I “wait.” Thanks for the insight!

  • Emerald112

    I love this post! The Bible verses effortlessly relaxed me. I’m so glad to have found your site Kim! God bless & keep you beautiful! #BLMGirls

  • LaChaya Terry

    Great post! We all have areas were we can exercise more patience. I was just listening to a message this morning by Joel Osteen about God testing you to see how you handle certain situations. Thanks for this confirmation! #BLMGirls

  • Love this. Glad I found our blog! 🙂

  • I could certainly use more patience. Great way of looking it instead of silently fuming inside. Thanks for sharing.

  • Kerissa

    As I’ve matured in my faith walk, I’ve learned and am still learning to appreciate the waiting period. One Bible story that helps me stay grounded is the story of Joseph. Your post reminded me of the many wonderful results that are manifested in my life when I allow God to truly orchestrate my life’s journey. Thanks for sharing!

  • Debbie Dion Hayes

    Such nice observations. My issues twice were wishing my life away in pregnancy.

  • Katherine Gilbert

    Thank you for posting this. Sometimes I forget this. I’m not the best at patience either.

  • That Joyce Meyer quote holds so much truth. Thank you for this reminder!

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  • Rebekah

    Patience isn’t my strong suit either. I’m trying to remind myself not to rush things with my boys, I want to remeber their childhood, not wish it away because I want them to be at the next stage.